Once, in a workshop, I learned to think of Scarlett O’Hara when I worry too much. Here’s how it works: Worrying breeds more worrying, so simply postpone it. Have a worry time set aside each day — maybe 10 minutes or so — with a soothing cup of tea or whatever relaxes you. Late in the afternoon is good. Write down what you worry about, and try to either overcome the worry or solve the problem. If you can’t, that’s OK. Read over the worries you had the day before. Pretty soon you will see possible patterns, such as worrying about things that are fleeting downers in life and not worth the time you gave them during your worry time. Try this. It works.
This is a reminder to keep calm when times are tough. What’s the first thing you do when you get bad news? Panic? Feel anxious? Fetal position in bed? Call a friend? Liquor cabinet? It’s OK to feel panic or anxiety or both. It’s your own body asking, “Should we fight or flee?” So that’s awesome; we know that the panic is natural. Here is the tip: Successful people get over panic quickly, then look for alternatives for solving the issue or at least dealing with it. Some people do it naturally — maybe due to their family, maybe thanks to a mentor. Keeping cool when bad news hits can be a learned skill. Try it. Right after the panic hits, relax; count to ten slowly (or meditate if you can); and decide on your alternatives. It works.