“It’s not fair!” Your mother warned you about this phrase, so why continue to say it when you’re dealt a really bad hand? If you’re looking for fairness in life, stop. Not everything is fair. You have a challenge with a customer, such as a bad return; you say, “It’s not fair.” Your husband leaves you for a sweet young thing after you’ve put him through medical school; you say, “Not fair!” Those things stink, for sure — but holding on to the concept that you’ve been somehow wronged in the fairness department doesn’t solve the crisis. All you do is continue to hold onto anger and frustration, even hopelessness. Take the phase “it isn’t fair” out of your vocabulary. It puts you into the endless loop of hopelessness.