Here’s a stress-buster for you. Some experts say we should never say “what if” when faced with a possible unexpected bad outcome, because it causes us to visit the darkest, most horrible of outcomes. They want us to say, “What are my alternatives?” when we run into a challenge. I believe it shouldn’t be one or the other, but both. Let’s look at the stages: Stuff happened. Your natural stress was triggered because of the stuff happening. You chose alternatives. You took action Before I choose alternatives, I always look at “what if”, but just for a moment; I want to be prepared for the worst, just in case. Then I list my alternatives, pick one of them and go with it. It has worked for me for many years and gives me less stress because I have a plan.